I am not going to pretend that I enjoy being a working mom. Honestly, if I could have the world my way, I would be home with my son till he was school aged and I would just write blogs and coach. However, it’s not a perfect world.
I tell myself pretty little lies daily to ease an inner pain of being separated for my sweet boy. I tell myself to be proud that I can provide for my son by having a great job. I tell myself be thankful you have a career that has great insurance, lots of time off, and a job where I don’t work nights or weekends. All of these things are true, but it doesn’t mean I can’t feel a secret sadness about being away from my baby boy.
I am lucky my son gets to be with his paternal grandmother where he can see his primos and receive love from his tias during the week. It doesn’t mean I can’t miss him. Even though I’m at work and focused on making a difference for other people’s kids, I still worry about my own child constantly. Thoughts like, is he napping? Is he having fun? Is he okay? Is he happy? What is he doing?
Someone told me that the day you become a mother is the day you worry for the rest of your life. I think it’s true. I have only been back working full-time for four weeks, and fortunately I have an amazing spouse and extended family helping to raise our son, but it’s not easy. It’s hard going from a recent 24/7 mommy to just getting to hold my baby for a few hours a day. It’s hard trying to fit everything in and being comfortable letting certain things go that my former self use to fixate on. Finding balance as a new mom is a transition, and I know I’m transforming into a working mom.
People who say hire help should be careful with that comment because not all people live a life with that much disposable income. Instead, I think moms should say to other moms: take it one day at time; do what you can; be willing to let things go; it will be okay; you’re doing great; it’s okay to cry; don’t be so hard on yourself; be willing to take breaks; spread your chores out; it’s okay to miss your baby; you’re amazing! To all you working moms out there, I am so proud of you because I know it ain’t easy.
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I am a new mother who has her hands full! I juggle not just my coaching business, but I am also a full time educator. I also teach yoga in the Bay Area, and I mentor first generation college students.