There are a myriad of articles out there on how to be successful. Many people, however, need help getting started. I think the biggest key, is first you have to step up and and stand firm with what you want. After you have it in your mind and heart what you want, then you can take action to make it reality. You have to also not be afraid to sacrifice what seems good in your life for what will be great in your life. Below is a list of ideas on how to be successful.
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1. Get Specific about what you want. Do you want to loose baby fat? How much? Do you want to run a marathon? When? The more specific the better. When goals are not specific we tend to get off track and our focus becomes less clear. The more focused you are, the more likely you are to accomplish what you set out to do.
2. Be REAListic with your goals. You are human and nothing is going to happen over night, so be patient. You will not drop two pants sizes in a month, nor will you drop 50 lbs in two months. Breathe and get specific and realistic. For example, say, "I want to focus on drinking one gallon of water a day, do cardio for thirty minutes 4 times a week, and have a complete protein with each meal to help me shed one pound a week."
3. You Decide-When and Where and How Much. Just like in the movie "Pretty Woman," you decide on the deal. I suggest making a plan. For example, say to yourself, "I will workout Monday, Wednesday, Friday, and Saturday. I am going to do it every evening at 6:00 p.m. This is an important date that I am keeping with myself." Then write it down on your calendar or put those dates and times in your phone.
4. MONITOR YOUR PROGRESS. You have to do this. Pictures will show you ten-times more than a scale. So my competitors and weight loss people, take photos! Weigh yourself once or twice a month (but not more please). Another way to monitor progress, is you can time your runs. Also, you can log how much weight you can lift from one month to the next. You have to see your growth and changes because that is going to keep you inspired. You have to compare yourself to you. Avoid comparing yourself to others. You can only be better than yourself.
5. Focus on Being Better than the Day Before. Each day focus on being better than the day before. Avoid being "good," for that's subjective. Just be better each day and only compare that to yourself.
6. Get Gritty. You can't be afraid of pain and sacrifice. You have to be willing to endure tough days and stay committed. Step Up and Stand Firm!
7.Build a Muscular Mind. Your mind needs to build up its will power because when your body is ready to quit it's going to be your mind that keeps you going. Yoga and meditation help. Breathing with patience helps. The more you use your mental will power, the stronger you will become.
8. Avoid Temptation. Even the people with the strongest will power can be tempted to cheat or derail from their goals. I've done it more than once, but like step 5, just be better than the day before. If you know that sweets tempt you then don't have them in your house, and only go out for them on your reward day. If alcohol is not part of your plan, then avoid situations where you may feel pressured to drink, or confident enough to have sparkling water or a diet soda instead. People who really love you will understand that you have standards for yourself, and will respect you more if you walk your talk. It's okay to make your goals come first.
9. Focus on What You WILL DO. How you meet your goals needs to be discussed with positive language. For example: I will workout today. I will only date a person who is________________. "I will," needs to be your new language. Most of us know what we don't want. I challenge you to only use language about what you DO WANT and what you WILL DO to reach those goals. Avoid giving your mind the option to think negatively. Stay positive. Step Up and Stand Firm toward YOUR SUCCESS.
The reality of victory, no matter the goal, has to have one essential ingredient. The most important element to any plan is to have patience attached to your wrist or secure, inside your pocket. Patience helps us to hold the vision of the big idea, or destination of our dream, in a positive light. Is it difficult to wait? Absolutely it can be, but it doesn't have to be painful or frustrating. If we want victory to be free of anxiousness and stress then patience is absolutely necessary. It would be easy to go back to less, or lower our standards, just because we're too impatient to wait for the best. In other words, it would be easy to slip back into old habits, or to quit, simply because we want instant gratification. What does that solve though? When we are rushing does anything of quality transpire? Most likely not, and then we are left feeling bad about it, guilty, holding on to shame, and definitely vibrating at a lower frequency.
Part of vitality and youthfulness is to stay young and vibrant. Vibrant people have energy burning at high frequency. Those people often look like they are glowing and we often call them beautiful. Why are they so lovely to be around? Vibrant, youthful people-regardless of age-are magnetic and hypnotic because they allow their lives to flow under the grace of patience. Most successful, goal oriented people have realized that patience is the key to long term planning and goals, and that is what makes them extra beautiful. Mother Nature, herself, is patient. Plants do not grow to maturity overnight, a baby in a womb takes months to fully develop. So why do we try to rush everything? Why do we try to rush weight loss, love, having kids, getting married, and so much more? We put urgency toward everything mainly because technology is confusing us to think we must have results now! To fix that, we must change our mindset and way of responding to life.
In order to change our mind-set, and accept that patience will be our best friend to obtaining our ideal vision for life, then we have to surrender to time. In our current age, time seems to move so quickly and there are technological advancements occurring beyond our comprehension making us believe that is true. Technology offers us a false reality that everything happens instantly. In all actuality, instant gratification is not the way to success or basking in our victory. True, the quickness of technology makes many things more enjoyable, such as communication or medical care; however, the quickness of lab results or an answer from an email still requires next steps and often work. Work, as we know, requires patience. Responding to time naturally is how we reach our destination with a real sense of accomplishment and happiness.
Time is relative. The months are going to by whether or not you exercise or eat right. People are going to develop and change regardless if you are open to changing too. Basically, time marches on at a fluid pace. What makes us feel rushed, or that time is speeding past us, is our attitudes and mental and physical health. Keep in mind that often what we are meant to learn and become happens in the process of waiting. Just be patient. In the end, you'll be happy you did not rush things or give in to less than what you deserve. Just be patient.
Below are lists of things you can do to cultivate more patience into your life for a variety of reasons.
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I am a new mother who has her hands full! I juggle not just my coaching business, but I am also a full time educator. I also teach yoga in the Bay Area, and I mentor first generation college students.