Right before I did this photo shoot, at six months postpartum, I asked one of my dearest friends, who is also a mother of two boys, if I should do the shoot now or “wait until I look better.“ She told me “Absolutely not. Do the shoot.“ She told me that it’s really important, as a postpartum woman, to see other women reflect similar struggles because this way she knows she isn’t alone in the journey to reclaiming herself. I have to say I agree. We had a long conversation about this; about our bodies, our new way of looking at ourselves, and our new way of thinking.
For many women much of our self identity, and sadly value, comes from physical appearance. Social media is one of the biggest pushers of this lie. This is a societal truth globally. I’m not going to go into a debate about how this is right or wrong, but I will say it makes being a woman complex.
As a postpartum woman, I can say my relationship to myself is very different than it once was. My body to date, six months postpartum, has an overall composition very different than what it once was. My approach to training is much different than ever before. I am learning to do more with less time. I have excess skin in my abdomen that once never existed. My muscle mass to fat mass has changed. My hips have changed. Lots of physical things about me have changed. But guess what? It is okay! It has been worth it. Mentally, I am more confident and accepting of myself. I have become more patient with myself. I feel I have become more focused in all aspects of my life because I have so little time for me that I have to make each second count. Even my relationship to food has changed in a real positive way. My new body may be softer, but I guarantee my little baby loves being cradled by my softness. This may be my body right now, but like all bodies they change a lot over the course of a lifetime.
If you’re a mom, or even a kid free woman reading this, and you feel your worth is only measured by your body think again. Your worth is measured in your actions and how you make others feel. So embrace yourself, go after your goals, and make yourself proud. As my best fried told me, “Do it!” Do something that gets you out of your comfort zone so you can blossom in ways you didn’t realize where possible.
I am a new mother who has her hands full! I juggle not just my coaching business, but I am also a full time educator. I also teach yoga in the Bay Area, and I mentor first generation college students.